STRUGGLE OF SINGLE PARENTHOOD

Raising children with morals and sense of civic responsibility is not at all easy. But also not impossible. The key is parenting. When a person comes to your life you share everything and decide to go ahead in this path together hand-in-hand. They become your partner for life when it comes to sharing and caring. Same thing happens when they climb the stair of becoming a parent. But it some find themselves on the stair case alone one day.

Parenting itself is a roller coaster which can surely give you a ride to hell but it is much more difficult when it come to single parenting.

SINGLE PARENT

Everyone knows who is a single parent. They are the ones who take care of their child and don’t have a spouse either due to divorce, death, break-up or abandonment.

If we study the census data, it may surprise you that 80.4% of custodial parent are mothers and 19.6% are fathers (1 in 5).

COMMON SINGLE-PARENT CHALLENGES

o Responsibilities: Juggling multiple responsibilities of home and work makes it difficult for single parent to manage it all alone.

o Babysitter issue: Some can’t take care of the child during their growing age and it is difficult to find a babysitter who can look after them as their own child. Most of them are careless and just do this for some sort of responsibility.

o Quality time: When the child grows parents fail to spend some time with them. This distances the child at some point of time though the child has immense love for his/her parent seeing their struggle of parenting.

o Handling the child: When it comes to understanding it is difficult for an opposite gender parent. As they grow up girls find it difficult to share things with father and then she feels the void of her mother. Same is the case with boy’s void, a father could fill it better.

o Improper balance: Absence of a parent stresses everything and imbalances in the upbringing of the child. More of something or less of something is always bad. A child requires both mother’s love and a father’s strictness. More of

anything causes an imbalance which stresses the parents especially.

o Missing out someone: For single parents who struggle for a partner at the end of the day. They miss someone who can share your stress and calm you. It is hard to see your child who also wonders for their mother-daughter/son or father-daughter/son bond.

Let me brief you with some details, parent (father / mothers) go through when they do not have a partner.

· SINGLE MOTHERS

Only fewer mothers get remarried.

o The first problem they face is unemployment. There is a higher number of illiterate women and they find it difficult to get a proper job in this fast pace environment. Some even don’t get enough money to run the house.

o They face challenges outside the world especially those unwanted proposals of marriage and the society’s state of mind. Those preying eyes make them uncomfortable outside the house.

o Being busy mothers they cannot encourage the child for extra physical activity like any sport like a father.

o Women are physically more weak than men with the growing age. The lower stamina makes them tired soon before the day.

· SINGLE FATHERS

Most of the father’s remarry as it is very difficult for them while parenting as compared to single moms’. Single fathering is much harder.

o Most of the men don’t know anything about parenting or taking care

of the child. They are new bee.

o They mostly are frustrated due to their work and this makes them shout/scream on children. This results in creating a negative impact on child.

o Father’s always encourage their child for physical activity, video games or other sports. But here the negative part is that when they are stressed instead of sitting and spending time (like mothers’ do) the push the child to play games or go out.

o We all are foodie and everyone desires of good home cooked food. Here they miss their mothers. Except few fathers, most of them don’t know to cook properly. Either they eat light food- easy to make or keep a maid who neither cooks well like a mother will do.

You will have to do the toughest job of you life but when you see your child to a well grown-up person one day, this will make you even proud of the way you will handle them. And the thing you need to know is child will be your only friend and they will help you move ahead in this path